MBTI vs. K-Saju (part 17)

MBTI vs. K-Saju (part 17) | The Energetics of Anxiety

<Why Am I So Tired Around People I Love?>

King's Clothes of Gonryongpo — The clothes worn by the king and heir to the throne and the emperor and queen of the Korean Empire during the Joseon Dynasty when they visit their offices

You're Not a New Type. You're in a New Timing. — Recognize the limitations of the fixed personality 'types' provided by MBTI, and present K-Saju's perspectives on 'timing' and 'flow' provided as an alternative to the confusion experienced by individuals as they grow and change. K-Saju does not mean that individuals abandon their essence, but rather that their energy is expressed differently according to the changing times. It provides a new framework for understanding yourself and helps you accept these changes as positive 'evolution'.

I listen closely.

I show up fully.

I try to be everything they need—

and then some.

But afterward, I’m drained.

The closer they are,the more tired I feel.

I don’t want to pull away.

But I can’t keep pouring from a cup

that never refills.

- Emotional generosity meets structural exhaustion

MBTI’s E and F types—especially EF—

thrive on connection and care.

They intuit what others need,

and give without hesitation.

This makes them warm, dependable,

but also quietly depleted.

Because while others feel seen and held,

they forget to leave space

to return to themselves.

K-Saju sees this as a structure

where Companion and Resource

continuously cycle outward.

Companion reaches, joins, adjusts.

Resource absorbs, listens, contains.

When both flow outward—

and never return inward—

you end up giving more

than your structure was built to sustain.

- Burnout builds slowly—until it doesn’t.

MBTI doesn’t always register burnout in real-time.

EF types may keep givinguntil the crash arrives.

They may notice others’ needs before their own fatigue.

K-Saju reads this delayed depletion

through Sewoon (세운: se-woon).

Certain years increase external emotional demands,

especially when Companion or Resource is activated.

These cycles reveal when

you’re more likely to overextend

without realizing it.

Timing matters—

not just for when to give,

but when to step back

before exhaustion hits.

- Closeness shouldn’t cost you your center

You love being present for others.

As an EF type in MBTI,

you naturally tune into people’s emotional states,

adjusting yourself to maintain harmony.

This makes you feel needed—

but slowly, you begin to lose your own emotional setting.

K-Saju sees this as a Companion loop

with no internal anchor.

If Resource is also overactive,

you may start carrying emotions that aren’t yours—

believing you’re just being supportive.

Both systems agree:

when connection turns into constant emotional labor,

the cost is your own center.

Eventually, relationships begin to drain

rather than energize.

And you wonder why love feels so heavy.

- Love can still be mutual—even with boundaries

MBTI honors your emotional insight.

K-Saju helps you find a rhythm

that protects it.

Through Daewoon (대운: dae-woon) and Sewoon (세운: se-woon),

K-Saju shows when your structure

has space to give

and when it needs to recover.

When Output or Authority stars enter the flow,

they support boundaries and self-clarity.

This isn’t withdrawal—

it’s recalibration.

When the flow shifts,

you’ll find ways to stay present

without erasing yourself.

- You’re not tired because you love too much—

you’re tired because you’ve forgotten to include yourself in the circle of care.*

MBTI helps you understand

why connection matters so deeply to you.

K-Saju shows when that connection

starts costing more than it should.

You don’t have to stop giving.

You just need to find a way

to let energy return to you, too.

When you do,

love no longer drains—

it restores.

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