<Why Does Conflict Drain Me So Much?>
- wanted to speak, but the timing had always passed.
Even when I rehearse what I want to say,
once conflict begins, I disappear.
Even when I know I’m right, I hesitate.
Even when I’m hurt, I try to say it gently.
Just thinking about conflict
makes my body shrink.
It’s not anger that I fear—
it’s the thought of losing a connection that matters to me.
- Between Inner Values and External Pressure
MBTI’s I types, especially INFP and INFJ,
act based on strong inner values.
They speak carefully, with empathy,
and often imagine the situation before it even happens.
This makes them warm and thoughtful,
capable of holding others’ emotions for a long time.
So when tension rises,
they respond first by protecting the connection—
not by asserting themselves immediately.
K-Saju interprets this as structural tension
between Authority (boundaries and control)
and Companion (emotional closeness).
When these forces pull in opposite directions,
conflict arises within.
You want to speak up—
but the urge to preserve connection speaks first.
- Conflict Always Comes When You’re Not Ready
Conflict doesn’t arrive on schedule.
It’s sudden, sharp, and unexpected.
MBTI’s F and I types aren’t slow thinkers—
they’re weighing many emotional angles.
K-Saju reads this internal pacing
through Sewoon (se-woon),
the annual flow of energy.
In years when Authority energy is strong,
you may feel resistance building inside
but need more time before it becomes words.
You think, “I wanted to say something...”
but by then, the moment has passed.
- When Assertive Words Feel Like Pushing Someone Away
Fi-dominant MBTI types feel emotions deeply and quietly.
Even when things escalate, they often say little—
not because they don’t care,but because they care too much.
K-Saju views this as the internal compression
of Authority energy.
When a chart holds strong Authority with Companion,
the drive to assert and the urge to protect clash.
Silence becomes a survival tactic—
not from avoidance,
but from trying not to break what you want to keep.
Still, it drains you.
- When the Flow Tells You It’s Time to Speak
Conflict always seems to arrive before you’re ready.
But that doesn’t mean you’re wrong.
MBTI’s F and I types don’t react right away—
they tend to express after emotions settle.
Their voice comes when the internal order feels right.
K-Saju maps that rhythm structurally,
through Daewoon (대운: dae-woon) and Sewoon (세운: se-woon).
When Authority flow is strong,
you may feel more external pressure—
but also more ability to set boundaries.
When Companion is dominant,
you might delay speaking
and give yourself space to regulate.
MBTI follows an emotional rhythm.
K-Saju follows a structural flow.
Expression doesn’t have to happen immediately—
when the timing opens,
you can speak without hurting others
or exhausting yourself.
- You’re Not Weak. You Were Built This Way.
Avoiding conflict doesn’t mean avoiding truth.
MBTI’s I and F types simply need time
to express what they truly feel.
It’s not hesitation—it’s care.
Slowing down is a choice to protect
both yourself and the connection.
K-Saju respects that pace.
Instead of forcing expression,
it shows the flow where your truth can land gently.
You don’t need to explode to be heard.
There is a moment
where your words can come out softly,
without draining you.
Tags: #MBTI #Saju #PersonalityType #EnergyCycle #KoreanAstrology #SelfAwareness #TimingNotType #사주 #MBTIvsSaju
