<Why Do I Clash So Strongly with Certain People?>
- They're a good person—but we just don’t click
“They’re not a bad person. But I always end up feeling tense around them.”
“Why does that tone of voice hurt me more than it should?”
Discomfort between people often appears in unexpected ways.
MBTI offers a helpful starting point here: “You’re a Feeling type. They’re a Thinking type. That can create conflict.”
K-Saju asks something else: What energy are you reacting to? And what current is moving through you right now?
- It’s not personality. It’s energetic composition
K-Saju looks at relationships from another lens:
“You and this person are made of very different energy structures. And they’re clashing.”
Someone with strong Metal (judgment, control) energy tends to seek order and clarity.
Someone with dominant Water (emotion, fluidity) energy tends to flow and feel.
When they meet, emotions may disconnect or misalign—not because of flaws, but because their core dynamics are pulling in different directions.
K-Saju doesn’t label anyone. It examines the foundational makeups—and how those combinations interact.
- Even the same person can feel different at different times
Sometimes, someone who once felt safe now feels distant.
Did they change? Or did something shift inside you?
K-Saju says: “The flow between you has changed.”
As your Daewoon (10-Year Energy Flow) or Sewoon (Annual Energy Flow) shift, the emotional intersections between people shift, too.
If the other person is now in a Fire phase (expression, stimulus) and you’re in an Earth phase (stability, grounding),
they may push forward while you try to hold ground—creating a sense of pressure or imbalance.
The same person can feel completely different when the energetic waves change.
- When energies collide, emotions speak up
MBTI explains interaction through type differences.
K-Saju interprets interaction as a meeting between structure and timing.
“Your Output energy is heightened right now. Their Authority energy is pushing against it.”
“They just spoke normally, but your Companion energy was triggered.”
It’s not about what was said—it’s about what moved in that moment.
This is why we sometimes feel drained without reason, or unsettled without knowing why.
- Not avoidance, but choosing when to flow
K-Saju says:
“This discomfort doesn’t mean you’re wrong or weak. It means that right now, the flow between you is amplifying emotional friction.”
For example, if you're in a Fire period (expressive, bold) and they’re in a Metal phase (strict, clear),
your joke might come across as inappropriate,
and their bluntness might feel like an attack.
It's not about personality or intent. It's about current energetic friction.
In moments like this, what matters is how you choose within the flow—
taking a step back, speaking less, allowing space.
That’s not avoidance. It’s alignment with what will shake you less.
We are beings of energy.
And sometimes, our rhythms just don’t sync—and that’s okay.
- Even discomfort is part of the flow
K-Saju doesn’t try to fix conflict.
It reveals the rhythm and structure behind it.
And sometimes that’s all we need to say:
“Now I understand why this relationship feels the way it does.”
